Random Thoughts!

1. A man should never abandon his child/children and whoever does is a coward.
2. Women should not settle for someone who she doesn't think is the one.
3. Always think before you speak
4. Women should never say they're never going to do something for their man. Always be open..we feel better knowing that we have a chance.
5. You shouldn't be in a relationship because of sex. What happens when the sex goes bad? The relationship is the next to follow..
6. Don't put anything past anyone. In the end were all human and we make mistakes.
7. It takes more than just love to have a successful relationship. Just because yal love each other doesn't mean the relationship is good.
8. Friends are the same as enemies. We value both!
9. Be careful who you love. They may hurt you!
10. Just because you're 21 that doesn't make you grown.
11. You shouldn't be proud of what you're given, you should want to earn everything.
12. Always count your blessings.
12. Never hold grudges, you never know who you're going to need.
13. You should make sure the ones you love, love you back!
14. 9/10 when a female says she doesn't do this very often she's lyin!
15. In college, most of the time females want the same thing the fellas want.
16. Most females are statistics. In other words you're just another number added to the list.
17. Get what you can out of every situation.
18. Where would this world be today without technology?
19. Ladies don't expect a guy to just want to chill with you if yall already had sex. You should've thought about that before you gave it up.
20. Sex is the key to a man's heart..not food. We can handle mediocre food but not mediocre sex.
21. It's hard for a female to recognize when a guy is being real or just runing game.
22. Guys will tell a female anything to get in.
23. And most of the time it works
24. Just because you're home girl is having sex with a guy it doesn't make you and that guy cool
25. McDonald's is poison!
26. Most of the time people talk about others because they're insecure about themselves.
27. Everyone is going to get hurt, just accept it and move on.

A Real Woman/Man!

Ok if you're on any social network or have any friends you always see or hear someone saying they want a real woman/man. But the question we don't ask is; what is a real woman/man? Now some people may try to come up with a definition of what they think this is but in reality, who says that what you say is the truth? Just because you say this is what a real women/man is doesn't mean that's what it is. When people are asked this question they usually come up with something that they've always wanted in a man or woman or something they've never had. Most of the time you hear this from women and rarely men. Women get hurt continuously and start to feel that all men are the same. Although there's some truth in that assumption it's not all the way true. As a matter a fact what women don't realize is that all men have the same thoughts they just have different actions. Women say how they're so independent and know what they want in life and whatever else they feel qualifies as being a REAL WOMAN, but they usually aren't that independent and don't know exactly what they want in life. So ladies I ask you...what is a REAL MAN? Or is it a defiant answer to this question? You can continuously say a real man has the qualities such as being respectful, trustworthy, and loyal but isn't that the same thing as a good man? That's safe to say right? It's easier to define a good man because everyone knows right from wrong, but how can anyone define a REAL MAN or WOMAN?

Thinking Beyond Color!

Some people may say race isnt an Issue anymore but some will say It still is. I think we still have a slight problem with it. The past couple of years their has been a couple of instances in sports where I think race had a big part in. When yu hear the names Ben Roethlisberger, Michael Vick, and Brett Favre yu think big name quarterbacks. But these big name quarterbacks have been in the news for far different reasons. Ben Roethlisberger was allegedly accused of sexual assault, Mike Vick was indicted of dog fighting, and Brett Favre was accused of sending his dick through the phone while he was married. Roethlisberger received no jail time but was suspended four games, Mike Vick was incarcerated for two years and spent some time suspended, and Brett Favre was fined $50,000. By the way Mike Vick is the only black guy! Now I'm not just sayin this bc of I'm black but it seems like killing an animal is more severe then raping a woman and committing adultery! Mike Vick paid his debts to society and was suspended without pay for his crimes but yet every time Vick is on tv yu hear abt his dog fighting incident. Why? Is it bc of race? Or do we think fighting dogs is bigger than sexually assaulting women and committing adultery? Now that big Ben is In the SUPERBOWL, for two weeks ppl will praise him and say how he has turned his life around whereas with Vick you will forever hear about his dog fighting incident. Bc of Brett Favre's hall of fame numbers over his years his incidents werent heard for after two weeks! Now if mike Vick wins a SUPERBOWL, will that be enough? Him coming back into the league, reviving his career, and taking his team back to the playoffs was a big enough accomplishment. When will race not be a factor in our generation? Or do we have to wait another 100 years?

Switching Positions!!

I never got why females always try to take the role of a male in any form of relationship. Males are known as the cheaters, the liars, the players etc. But when women try to reverse the roles, in my opinion, it's ignorant. If a guy has sex with two best friends, two relatives, or a number of females they get crowned for doing so. But reverse the roles, and the female is known as a slut. Some would say these acquisitions aren't fair but who says life is fair? Females try to play the "playa" role and have a guy's mentality but it doesn't make you look smart you're actually humiliating yourself. You don't have to have a guy's mentality to have a successful relationship you just have to be smart. Don't settle for less, know what you're getting yourself into before you jump into a relationship, and be honest throughout the entire process. Women have tendencies of being to nice, not letting go when it's time, and giving to many chances. Often more than not, women hurt themselves by not trying to hurt their partner. Their are more ways to have a healthy relationship without taking on the "playa" mentality.

Hate! Envy! Jealousy!

People often hate, envy, and show jealousy towards others. No one knows why these feelings exist we just have to accept them. A question that I haven't been able to grasp the answer for is; why do black people constantly try to bring down other black people && their success? Is it because we hate each other? Or are we just jealous of what they have because we don't have it? I think it is a combination of both. We hate seeing other successful black people because we are less fortunate than they are and we want what they have. But why do we feel this way? We should embrace the people who were here before us and that gave us the opportunity to have the privileges we have today. Without them we wouldn't have the Oprah's, the Jay Z's, and the Russel Simmons of the world. Instead of being jealous of these people of higher stature, we should try to match their success with our own. Will this day ever happen? I doubt it! But if we (African-Americans) all proceed to being the best at what we do, we will have more black people with more importance with reputations gained by their abilities and achievements. We are already living in a "white man's world" so why not come together instead of continuously bring each other down? Think about it!

Not Holding Grudges!

One thing you never want to do is hold a grudge. I'm glad that I found out this early in life rather than late. The reason you never want to hold a grudge on someone is because you never know when you're going to need that person. People don't always do the right thing or treat you the best but don't hold that against them, always forgive but never forget. These words were written to me today by a certain someone and made me feel better about myself for not holding a grudge or anything against this person:




"What's up Man? I don't have enuff space 2 say the things i need 2 say but I'll get it started and finish anotha day. First off I love you. actions may not prove it, but u r my first born n I think of u daily. The money situation is anotha note. I have failed u and I am ashamed of that. My only hope is that u somehow find it n ur heart 2 4give me and give me anotha chance at being ur Father. I kno it will take time b/c the same thing happened w/ me and ur grandad. It took a while 4 us 2 repair the damaged that we caused ova the years. I love u and I'm proud of u. Thanks 4 making me so proud and proving 2 ur mom who did an exceptional job raising u that u r a strong black man raised by a single parent and has never been in trouble w/ the law and will grow 2 b a respectable citizen living the american dream. Be safe up there and take care. I love u SON!!!!!!"






-I understand that truly forgiving someone is hard and i'm not talkin about convincing yourself you forgive that person but truly forgiving them. "Although I forgave I will never forget!"

Living In A Fantasy World!

To many people today are living in a fantasy world; meaning they watch movies, reality shows, and music videos and think that's how they're supposed to be living. Let me start with the women. Women see the big weddings on tv, they watch RHOA (Real Housewives of Atlanta), they see Nicki Minaj with the long different color weave etc. and they get the silly idea that they can do the same or they're supposed to be like this. Why would you want to be a housewife seriously? Who doesn't want to be independent? You rather be known as an ex baller wife rather than have your own money to back up on? Just because couples on reality shows and movies are living the perfect life and have the huge wedding and are living in marital bliss doesn't necessarily mean that your life should be this way. If you sit down and think about it, it's in theaters for a reason! Not saying that you can't have this life of course i'm just saying just because your life isn't like the way you see it on tv doesn't mean it's a failure. Women get so caught up in what they think they should have and they don't realize what they already have. This attitude often ruins relationships rather than saves them. Now on to the fellas. We watch music videos on BET, and movies with these guys who have alot of power and we sort of compare our life to theirs. We as men, should not worry about what other men have and be grateful for what we already have and who we already are. If a man and woman are content with their relationship and are worried about what they do in their relationship only then the relationship should prosper.

What It Takes To Be #1 (Vince Lombardi)

The following speech was giving by one of, if not the best coach ever in the NFL. Vincent Thomas Lombardi is arguably the greatest football coach of all time, and is on the short list of history’s greatest coaches, regardless of sport. His ability to teach, motivate and inspire players helped turn the Green Bay Packers into the most dominating NFL team in the 1960s. He is famous for many quotes and speeches but his "What It Takes To Be #1" speech is my favorite:




"Winning is not a sometime thing; it's an all the time thing. You don't win once in a while; you don't do things right once in a while; you do them right all the time. Winning is a habit. Unfortunately, so is losing.
"There is no room for second place. There is only one place in my game, and that's first place. I have finished second twice in my time at Green Bay, and I don't ever want to finish second again. There is a second place bowl game, but it is a game for losers played by losers. It is and always has been an American zeal to be first in anything we do, and to win, and to win, and to win.
"Every time a football player goes to play his trade he's got to play from the ground up — from the soles of his feet right up to his head. Every inch of him has to play. Some guys play with their heads. That's O.K. You've got to be smart to be number one in any business. But more importantly, you've got to play with your heart, with every fiber of your body. If you're lucky enough to find a guy with a lot of head and a lot of heart, he's never going to come off the field second.
"Running a football team is no different than running any other kind of organization — an army, a political party or a business. The principles are the same. The object is to win — to beat the other guy. Maybe that sounds hard or cruel. I don't think it is.
"It is a reality of life that men are competitive and the most competitive games draw the most competitive men. That's why they are there — to compete. To know the rules and objectives when they get in the game. The object is to win fairly, squarely, by the rules — but to win.
"And in truth, I've never known a man worth his salt who in the long run, deep down in his heart, didn't appreciate the grind, the discipline. There is something in good men that really yearns for discipline and the harsh reality of head to head combat.
"I don't say these things because I believe in the "brute" nature of man or that men must be brutalized to be combative. I believe in God, and I believe in human decency. But I firmly believe that any man's finest hour, the greatest fulfillment of all that he holds dear, is that moment when he has worked his heart out in a good cause and lies exhausted on the field of battle — victorious."
- V. Lombardi
1913 - 1970

Mission Statement!

Everyone should consider and proceed to creating their very own Mission Statement. A Mission Statement is defined as a formal, short, written statement of the purpose of a company, individual or organization. Your mission statement shoudn't be what you think sounds right or what you think you should be doing. You should really figure what you truly value in life and it should help you plan a well thought out mission statement. My Mission Statement is as follows:


*Develop specific qualities in order to be the best in my workfield
*To appreciate and enjoy all of the positives in my life
*To never regret anything, but to learn from mistakes
*To not let the past determine my future
*To share my wealth and success to the people who aren't as worthy and my loved ones
*To be a leader not a follower
*To maintain an independent lifestyle
*To stay a true role model to others
*To be a much better father than my father was to me
*To never settle and to keep getting better
*To appreciate where I came from and what I have

What Are Friends For?

One of the main questions i have never been capable of answering is: what are friends for? Maybe someone can help me. Being too friendly are issues such as never saying no and giving people too many chances after they have messed up. Often people think they're being used and they get upset. But don't we all use someone or get used? If I asked a friend to pay for something, or take me somewhere, or even borrow some money I would be using them for services i want or need. Using is not always bad because the deeds I just listed were examples of a friend doing a good deed for someone else. But in a way i'm still using him or her. But have you ever been called mean or not friendly or fake? People often called you these things when they ask you for something and they don't recieve it. But you can't automatically label that person as fake or mean if you don't get what you want out of that person can you? You can come to the conclusion that these people are trying to use you for your services and are not very fond of being told no. So the question comes up again;what are friends for? To talk about personal things? To be there for you when they're sad? To pay a couple of bills when they're struggling? All of these are true, so it's safe to say that the only thing friends are for is to be used...right?

Friends with Benefits, Boos, or Whatever You Call It!

Let me start by saying no I am not gay and three months ago I wouldn't have posted this.lol..Now that i'm in a relationship i can express my feelings on how a man thinks about different relationships. I believe about 90% of males (I can't speak for different races) are not ready or do not want to be in a committed relationship while in college. I thought i was one of these guys. Their are many ways you can know a guy does not want to be in a relationship and if some of the ladies out there will just sit down and think about their situation they can realize these things. And for the guys, if you understand that all a woman wants is for you to listen to her and really understand how she feels, not to hide anything from her, and to be faithful. Their are a few simple clues that a woman can detect from a man that lets her know that a guy doesn't want to be in a committed relationship. If a guy texts you more than he calls he doesn't/isn't ready for a relationship. A guy who doesn't want to be in a relationship text message females more than he calls mainly because he's texting more than one at a time throughout his day.If a guy only hits you up at a certain time of night he only wants you for one thing. Try asking him to come over to chill in the day time or telling him your period is on then ask to come over see what excuse he makes. I'm not going to go into all of them, those are just two of the few main ones. Now for the guys it's pretty easy right?WRONG!What women want is pretty easy to understand but actually performing these acts are the hard part. The main thing for a guy is to tell the woman exactly how you feel and your intentions with her. If you let her know your intentions are not to be in a relationship and you agree to be friends with benefits, boos, or whatever they are calling them these days then when she finds out you're doing your own thing on the side then she really can't be mad at the situation. And for the ladies remember assumming gets you hurt. If you assume the guy isn;t talking to anyone else and you find out he is he is not at fault for your assumptions. Rather then assuming what he is doing, the both of you should have a conversation about these types of issues to avoid this type of situation. Remember i'm not gay and this would not have been posted about 3 months ago..lol

Listen Before You Speak!

Everyday people argue about different things but most of the time many of these arguements can be avoided. What some people don't understand is that everyone does not have the same personality as you and everyone does not think the same as you. Let me use myself as an example. When gettin in arguements i used to always force my opinion on others instead of listening then responding. By forcing your opionions on others you're basically trying to change their mind about the situation and make them think the same as you. By listening to what they have to say before you take the initiative to speak, you find out the person's real view on the situation and the both of you can come to an understanding. You can practice different listening skills each day with anyone. Remember to first listen, restate what you thought you heard from that person, then tell that person what you think about the situation.